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1.Try 试试 “I’ll try to get it finished by…” “I’ll try to catch up with you on Saturday”. Whenever I hear someone saying this, or even myself, then I know that they are not serious and it is not going to happen. “我试着在......之前完成。”“我试着周六跟你见上一面。”每次我听到有人这么说，即使是我自己这么说，我就知道说话的人并不在意，他们所说的事也不会实现。 Try is a word that is devoid of commitment, leaving wide open the space for excuses to creep in and get in your way. No one created the life of their dreams and positive results by trying. They got theirs by doing and making it happen. “试试”这个词完全没有约束力，它给了说话人很大的余地去找借口。这世上没有人是通过“试试”来实现梦想的。要想取得积极的结果，只有脚踏实地地去干。 Make a clearer commitment instead by saying “I’ll have it done by…” “I am free at this time and I can meet you then…” or if need be, “I can’t promise anything but I will do my best to ….” 别再说“试试”了，你可以换一种为有约束力的表达，比如“我会在……之前完成。”“那个时候我有空，我可以在……跟你见面。”如果你没有太大的把握，那你就说“我不能向你证什么，不过我会尽力去……” 2. Wish 希望 Wishing is sitting on your couch daydreaming, waiting for your lotto ball to drop or the fairy godmother to appear. 希望就是坐在沙发上做白日梦，等着天上掉馅饼，等着仙女赐愿望。 Change wish to “I will…” “I’m determined….” 别在说“希望”了，你可以这样说“我会做……”“我决定做……” 3. I am 我…… Be very careful how you use the term “I am” to define who you are. You are angry; you are depressed, you are happy. All of these things are temporary emotions that come and go. If you define yourself as being this way than that identity can have a tendency to stick and what will follow will be excuses such as “I can’t do this because I am depressed” 要非常小心用“我……”来表达自己的情感。你生气也好，开心也罢，这些感情都是来得快去得也快。如果你用这种来去匆匆的感情来表述自己的话，那么你就很容易给自己找借口了，比如你会说“我不能做这件事，因为我很难过。” A better way to say it is “I feel angry. I feel depressed” This lets yourself know that it is a temporary feeling which could quite easily change. 换一种表达，你可以这么说“我感到很生气，我感到很沮丧。”这样说，就是在告诉自己这种感觉只是暂时的，你随时都可以做出改变。 4. If 如果 How many times do you mutter, “If I get that promotion then…” “If the money arrives then…”“If” always presents the element of doubt. Doubt and insecurity don’t bring you what you want, certainty and confidence does. 还记得你曾经多少次喃喃自语“如果我升了职，就会……”“如果那笔钱到了的话，就……”“如果”这个词经常表达的就是怀疑和不安，这种感觉是不会指引你走向成功的，只有“确定”和“自信”才能助你获得你想要的。 So instead of “if”, simply make it “when”. “When I get that new job…. ” “When” signals that you are serious and committed and you believe that what you deserve is on its way to you. 别再说“如果”了，你可以简单地用“当…的时候”来表达。比如“当我得到这份新工作的时候……”“当…时候”表现出的是你的认真和承诺，你相信自己能够做到，所以你就真的能做到。 5. Should 应该 Again a promise word, “I should call my mother more.” “I should go to the gym tonight.” Should is rife with feelings of guilt and complacency. “应该”又是一个表示承诺的词。“我应该多给妈妈打电话的。”“我应该今晚去健身房的。”“应该”所表达的通常都是与内疚和自满有关的情绪。 You know you are never going to do it and by somehow saying that you recognize you should makes you feel better. It doesn’t really; the only thing that makes you feel better is doing it. 当你说“应该”的时候，你知道你永远也不会去那么做。你这么说只是为了让自己好过一点。不过，这一点用都没有，真正有用的做法是，说到做到。 Should can be turned in to “I will…” or “I am going to…” 别再说“应该”了，你可以这样说“我要去……”“我打算去……” 6. I can’t 我不行 We’ve all heard there is no such thing as can’t. As soon as your brain hears you say the word can’t, it goes on a holiday. It shuts down and celebrates because it no longer has to find a way to do it. 我们都听说过这样一种说法“没有什么是做不了的”。一旦你的大脑听到你说“我不行”，它就去放大假了。大脑关闭了所有的思考系统去庆祝了，因为它再也不用努力去找方法解决问题了。 Choose your words carefully and you’ll soon learn that you can be, do, and have whatever you want. 谨慎地选择你的语言，不久你就会发现你可以得到，会得到，将得到你想要的一切。 (责任编辑：sailor) |
